Tuesday, April 4, 2017

{Care.Com}: The Good, the Bad and the Ugly

                                                      Care.com Logo

Well hello old friends. And new! It seems like I haven't posted in a while now, but I am back with a very interesting post! I am writing from sunny Arizona, where it is about 85° and gorgeous. I moved back to Arizona after my Fall semester ended and am living with my dear old dad. He is getting older and really should have someone living with him and I am just trying to get my degree and be done with school already, so it works out for both of us! As you know, I have moved around a lot! Most of the time, I am able to find a job right away which is nice. But this time, it is different because I am in school full-time and can only work part-time. This means that my job outlook has gone down significantly. The one thing I have always been able to count on is my 10 years of childcare experience. It means that pretty much wherever I go, I can find some sort of work because of my experience and high ratings.

The main way I have found childcare gigs is on a site called Care.com. For those who don't know what it is, Care.com is a company founded in 2006 originally specifically to match caregivers with parents looking for childcare. Now, it is a vast resource for those looking for caregivers for their children, elderly family members, pets, and also housekeeping/cleaning and errands. I have been on the site for about 5 years. I have several positive reviews and a slew of families that I have worked for under my belt. I get anywhere from 3-4 emails a month from families looking to hire me. Unfortunately most of them I have to turn away because of the location, however I am currently working for 2 care.com families here in the valley. Whenever I tell people that I work with parents on the site, most people are surprised that I am able to find work. They tell me that they have never been able to get hired on the site, and that they never get replies to their applications. This blog post is hopefully going to explain why, once and for all, and help some people get hired!

I will go over some misconceptions and solutions.

#1: No one replies to my messages/applications

This is the number one complaint I get from people. Care.com rolled out a "premium" feature for parents and caregivers. They claim that it allows parents to see your profile first, and that you are 3x more likely to get hired. What they don't tell you is that if you don't sign up to be a premium member, often times you can't receive any messages or replies from families for applications that you have sent out. This is INCREDIBLY frustrating and also RIDICULOUS. It all depends on the site. I haven't quite figured out what it is the triggers the system because I have been able to receive replies off and on (so I continue to send out messages to parents occasionally). It's just bad business, and makes it hard to get work. Also, reviews are everything. Parents don't want to hire someone with 2 years of experience and no reviews. It just isn't going to happen.

#2: Parents are only looking for 1 or 2 days a week

Unless this is something that you are looking for, it can be really annoying to try and get hired for substantial work. A lot of parents only need 1 or 2 days a week and consider that part time. That isn't part time in my book, and it isn't going to pay the bills. Unless you can line up several different families with those hours, it won't be very worth it. I have started posting ONLY FULL TIME (or hours I am looking for) on my profile, so that I don't have low ballers contacting me for crappy hours. The nice thing is that there is a calendar on everyone's profile where they can post the hours they are available. This makes scheduling very easy.

#3: Overbearing/Helicopter parents

There are several different types of parents. The laid back parents, the do what you want parents, no TV parents, TV anytime parents, nerdy Harry Potter/LOTR parents (my favorite), LGBTQ parents, and religious parents. Then, there are the helicopter parents. When you agree to watch a child whose parents work from home, you need to make sure that you are comfortable with the situation. I have had only 2 bad experiences with parents who work from home and were completely neurotic, and wouldn't leave me alone with the kid for more than an hour without checking on us. I realize that this is part of the culture (of both of the families). This is the thing: If a parent has hired you, they need to trust you unless there is something that you have done to betray that trust. I will NOT work for parents who don't trust me with their child. It is a slap in the face and makes my job uncomfortable and hard. It's also just annoying. You are your only advocate when it comes to self employed nannying/babysitting. You don't have an HR department or someone you can air your grievances to. I have ended relationships with a family because of this type of behavior, and it truly was for the best.

Some other helpful tips I could suggest is making one of the 30 second intro video which apparently is supposed to help you get hired more quickly. Also, making sure to reply to messages by the end of the day is very important. It can mean all of the difference between getting a job and not getting a job. Reviews are a requirement for me, no matter how I met the parents. Like I said, reviews are everything!

I really hope that this is a helpful post. If you have any comments or questions, please reply below! I respond to every comment posted.



Thursday, February 16, 2017

Dying breed of "Real Men"? No such thing!

I recently read an article on Linkedin, and while I agreed with parts of it, disagreed with most. Here are my thoughts:


You can find the original article within my post. It is this kind of thinking that makes me feel at times we are regressing, and not progressing. Thankfully, our generation is not generally in agreement with this kind of logic!

Thanks for reading, and feel free to comment on the post :)


Friday, December 23, 2016

Some of the BEST winter dates!

Well, as we all know, "cuffing season" is well upon us. For those of you out there who's date night ideas have run dry, I have compiled a few that might be able to spice up your life :)

1. Take a spur of the moment weekend vacation

Weekend trips do not have to be expensive. Set aside some money, plan a destination, and DRIVE! With awesome resources like AirBnB, you can find *clean* rooms, cheaper than a motel! Seriously folks, if you haven't tried AirBnB you are missing out. 

via Airbnb.com

2. Rent a car

via Turo

via Turo

There is this awesome new-ish company called Turo, that allows normal people (like you) to rent out their cars. To locate a car, you simply enter your pickup destination on the app or website, and you are given a generous selection of cars ranging from practical to extreme luxury in the area. The best part? They deliver the vehicle to you! I checked out a few options, and the prices per day are not bad at all! They are also far cheaper than most car rental companies I have checked over the years. Besides all of this, it is a very environmentally conscious company; people who choose not to own cars can rent them as needed! So, how does this factor into my date night scenario?? Well, go rent a nice car (affordably), and use the money saved for travel fun! 

3. Ice Skating 

via Depot Minneapolis Website
The town I grew up in has several parks which make ice rinks during the winter months which are completely free, and nice for cheap fun dates! If you are wanting something a little bit more upscale, there are many cities with indoor or outdoor rinks that you can skate on through the winter. Grab a cup of cider or cocoa and hit the rink! (I will say, that if you have never skated on ice before, it can take a bit to get used to and might not be too romantic ending up with bruises all over your rear end the next day!)

via Gallivan Events Center website

4. Art night

Head over to a ceramic painting shop, Art studio for some studio time, or swing by an Art museum! There is nothing like Art to get my heart pumping! If you are heading to a large Art museum, make it a two day date night. You can't possibly take it all in, in one day! Check on Groupon for discounts at Art studios and coupons for painting shops. Art museum tickets can get pricey, so take advantage of midweek discount days. Also head over to the theatre for a good play or musical! Sometimes you can get a last minute deal on tickets. Hamilton is coming to Phoenix next year and I am over the freaking MOON.
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Phoenix Art Museum. I volunteer here! It is pretty neat.
Via Scottsdale Real Estate Group

5. Foodie night

Go to a food truck roundup (very popular in Utah!), or just hit some new restaurants in town! Although it is getting colder in the northern states, food trucks are still out and about down here in Phoenix, if you know where to look! If going out isn't your thing, you can have a cooking night; each of you choose a few items, create a menu, and cook it together! Set up a table in a place you normally wouldn't eat, or make it romantic with candles and twinkle lights!

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Via Google
6. Humane Society trip

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This one is not for the faint of heart. I repeat, if you have an obsession with pets do NOT go! :) Just kidding, they need love, head on over. You and your boo can cuddle some cute kitties or snuggle some rabbits at the Humane society or a pet shelter. Especially around Christmas time, when people are given pets they really can't keep, it is nice to head over there and bring some relief. You can even volunteer together if that sounds fun! It is free, and they need the help and attention, being cooped up all day. Go early in the evening, as they tend to close around 8 PM. 

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both pictures c/o AHS.com

Well that's my short but sweet list of fun things to do this winter with your loved one! If you have any other ideas, feel free to comment below :)



Friday, November 18, 2016

Natural Deodorant: Does it REALLY work?!?

This post is a little weird! For those of you that know me, I don't have a problem speaking my mind, even if it might be on an uncomfortable subject. But for those of you who are genuinely squeamish talking about deodorant and body odor, we probably won't be good friends HAH!

Over the last few years, I have been experimenting with different natural deodorants. A couple of years ago, I tried out Toms of Maine, and didn't like it at all. It didn't work to stop perspiration, and the scent was not strong enough to block odor. Before I go any further, I should explain how deodorant/antiperspirant works (for those who don't know). There are two types of odor/sweat blocking agents sold in stores today and those are deodorants and antiperspirants. Some of them don't contain both properties, but most do. Certain brands, like Dove, Secret, Mitchum, and Degree all contain the active ingredient, Aluminum Zirconium. This is the ingredient that sets deodorant and antiperspirants apart (There have been numerous studies linking this active ingredient to breast cancer and reproductive issues, but I won't go into that today, you can Google that on your own time). It also is responsible for darkening of the arm pit skin (which many women of color tend to get). It acts as a "plug" for the sweat pores in your armpits; first shrinking them up and then plugging them and leaving a protective "barrier". The problem with this though, is that because your pores are being unnaturally plugged, your body fights even harder to push the sweat out. This is why in recent years we have seen more and more of the "clinical strength" deodorants hit the market.

Deodorant on the other hand, is simply a scent stick that aids with odor control. It doesn't control sweat production in any way, but certain deodorants can place a protective mineral salt barrier on your skin. What I have found is that my body does not like antiperspirants. They don't work, and the artificial scents that come standard with most "traditional" deodorants on the market when mixed with my sweat smelled worse than my natural odor. So after trying Tom's of Maine and finding that it didn't work, I went back to the traditional option. After making the decision to go back to all natural deodorant, I decided to try various options to find the best one. There are people that make their deodorant at home, but I don't think that it would be anywhere as effective as what is sold in stores today, so I won't review any homemade products.

Here is what I found!

Crystal Body Deodorant Stick

Pros: Stops excessive sweat (naturally with rock salt). It doesn't completely keep me dry, but it truly works better than anything on the market. NO WHITE MARKS/RESIDUE ON CLOTHING!
Cons: Unscented. What little sweat remains does cause odor as the day goes on. Doesn't completely get rid of the sweat. You have to let it dry for it to be effective, and you have to put it on while your arms are wet.

Crystal Essense Spray

Pros: Stops excessive sweat (naturally with rock salt). What's different is that this salt deodorant comes in spray form (the salt is in water), and is also scented naturally with essential oils. My favorite scents are fresh and natural, so I LOVE their Lavender scented spray. NO WHITE MARKS/RESIDUE ON CLOTHING! Sprays on easily.
Cons: You have to let it dry for it to be effective.

Arm and Hammer Essentials

Pros: The scent is GREAT! Easy roll on, like regular deodorant. 100% natural. Baking Soda as an odor blocker! Thanks Melanie for introducing me to this one!
Cons: No antiperspirant ingredients, not even natural ones. Limited scent options.

Native Deodorant

Pros: Great scent options, I chose Eucalyptus Mint. Not tested on animals! Rolls on easily like stick deodorant. I found this deodorant on Pinterest of all places! It is only available to purchase online, but you should totally check them out.
Cons: Expensive! It was $12. It leaves a grainy residue because of the arrowroot powder. After a while, the smell wears off and it mixes with my natural scent and does NOT smell good. My other deodorants do not have that problem.

I like to mix and match my deodorants, and they seem to work for me. It's important to note that when switching, it will take your body's sweat glands a few weeks to adjust to using natural deodorant, and during the transition process you may think the natural alternatives are not working. Just give it time! I promise it will be worth it.

Wednesday, November 16, 2016

Flirty Women are RUINING Guy/Girl friendships!!!

They really are! Picture this: no drama, eating BOMB food, 1st hand honest guy advice and just hanging out...things that I love to do, but don't always get out of my friendships with other women. Sure I have some good girlfriends and we are friends because we are all low-key chill gals. But sometimes I really appreciate my guy friends, and I think they are just important to have, to the point where when I enter a new job, ward, etc. I tend to navigate towards the guys over the girls. To be honest, it does put a damper on my dating life. For the most part, they pick up on the vibe that I'm not interested in anything besides friendship right away, which is awesome because the alternative is them eventually hinting that we are just friends during a conversation we might have which is always awkward.

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via Google

I have never once had one of my guy friends set me up with their friends which is LAME. Mostly because they are lazy. Other times because their friends are complete douche canoe's (which I can attest to). But they seem to always want me to set them up with my friends which is something I have no problem doing, as I love playing match maker :)

But hold up. HOLLLLLDDDD UP. Why, on Earth does it seem like every girl that I talk to these days has this overwhelming desire to falsely obtain that kind of relationship with every guy that they meet? Why do I have "falsely" bolded? Let me paint you a picture..

A girl who is well known by many as a flirt, decides that she just wants to just be friends with a guy. She sees the value of a platonic relationship but because of her flirtatious personality it never seems to work out. Why is this?? I think I have figured it out, and I will outline it below.

1. A friendship is built on mutual trust, openness, and respect. Most girls, by friend zoning a guy right away, have the best chances of maintaining that friendship. Those who don't quickly ruin it.

 "But, Natalie, what if I end up liking the guy later???"

First of all, where is there a rule that the friend zone has a one way door? It has been proven that the best relationships and marriages happen between two good friends. You can come out of the friend zone, whenever you want to. But to start in the zone is your best bet for healthy, lasting relationships. Some girls (who I am able to verrrrrrry easily identify) see being friends with a group of guys as a power play.

2. Imagine you are the only girl, friends with a group of guys. They fawn over you, buy you food, take you places  in your car because you don't have one and will do pretty much whatever you say. It might be nice, but only for you. It's sounds great, right?? Well what you don't realize is that you are literally taking advantage of people and that is wrong. That is no way to treat someone.

3. Another bad idea (especially with Mormons), is dating any guy that asks you out. For anyone who is confused, let me spell it out to you..

You don't need to go out with someone just because they ask you out. You don't owe them anything, and it is your time that you are spending. We all have the choice, and if you decide to go out with them, you might ruin a friendship or even friendships. I have been asked out by several guys who I have turned down. We were able to keep our friendship platonic, just the way I like it!

Now, it's Storytime. I am keeping the name of the person out of this to protect their privacy, and this story will hopefully help some people out there understand why they are in their current situation.

 I have a friend (well many) who is struggling with keeping guy/girl friendships. She is friendly. She is nice. She is pretty, and she is flirty. What happens is that she meets a guy, but leaves no indication that they are just friends. The guy then asks her out, which she accepts. Later when she explains that they are just friends, he is let down, but still feels obligated to maintain the friendship because she still sees them as friends. Then, the cycle continues with every guy in the group, give or take a few of them. Do you see the pattern here? Eventually, they all start hanging out, but then she actually falls for one of the guys. He turns her down because he doesn't want the same thing that has happened with them, to happen to him. All of it could have been avoided if friends had stayed friends! I hate to see my friends go down this road, but I am all too familiar with this scenario after witnessing it so many times.

The moral of the story is this: too often, girls want the friendship, but aren't able to keep their hormones and emotions in check. When that happens you can miss out on some pretty great friendships! Don't be afraid to let loose and just enjoy a solid friendship WITHOUT THE FLIRTING! There must have been something that made you gravitate towards that person, right? :)

Happy friending, y'all.



Thursday, October 27, 2016

Finns in MN!

Whew it has been a minute. I have not had any recently crazy fun adventures, which is probably why I haven't posted!

I had a chance to meet up with an old friend from Arizona this summer and it was great! He had a super long layover in MN and we decided to make the best of it! He served his LDS Church mission in Finland, and since we were in MN where there is an abundance of Scandinavian culture, he wanted to try to find a Finnish restaurant. I took him around all the local sights (downtown and near the Mississippi River) and we also stopped for dinner at this amazing Finnish restaurant we found on Como ave in St. Paul. It was to die for!

I had never tried Finnish food before, and it was amazing and very flavorful just as Gemma and Aksel had told me (Gemma is my old roommate and close friend, and Aksel is her husband who is from Finland).

Now, I am getting ready to move yet again, this time, more permanently. Still out west. I will be there for a while, or at least until I am done with school which is still going well!

Until next time,



Tuesday, May 3, 2016

{Recipe}: Paleo Shepherd's Pie

Folks, the struggle is so real. If you're like me and you love food, it is a constant battle. With all of the Tastemade videos on Snapchat, the amazing food feeds on Instagram, the food selfies etc. I mean it's a GREAT time to be a foodie. But for those of us who don't have any self control when it comes to good yummy food, it's BAD especially if you have food allergies or sensitivities! Yesterday for the first time in a long time (since my Whole30's last year), I had NO stomach issues, no allergic reactions, and was able to sleep like a baby. It was pretty amazing! The difference was that I didn't go out with a friend to eat, and made an amazing mid-day meal.

Today I can honestly say that my pantry is allergen free; I don't typically buy any groceries with dairy, or gluten. It is very rare, because they do make me sick. What gets me is when I go out with friends, which I have been doing A LOT lately. I order something that looks good, but isn't good for me, and pretty soon after I am feeling the effects and am suffering for the rest of the day. But, like I said, yesterday was heavenly. And so since I was feeling pretty darn good and the meal I made for lunch was BOMB.com, I must share this recipe with you!!

I found this recipe via Elana's pantry, and it is amazing. Shepherd's pie, for those who don't know, is a meaty dish originating in Britain, typically using a mix of ground lamb (or beef ), carrots, celery and onions topped with mashed potatoes, and then baked in the oven. This version is just as delicious, however uses the newly infamous cauliflower mashed potatoes as a replacement.

I have simply copy/pasted her recipe below!

  • 2 tablespoons olive oil
  • 1 large onion, diced
  • 1 pound turkey or pork bacon, cut into ½-inch slices
  • 2 cups diced carrots
  • 2 cups diced celery
  • 1 pound organic grass fed ground beef
  • ½ teaspoon celtic sea salt
  • 1 teaspoon ground black pepper
  • ½ teaspoon smoked paprika
  • 1 cup chicken broth
  • 2 large heads cauliflower, trimmed, chopped and steamed until very soft
  • 2 tablespoons olive oil
  1. Heat olive oil in a very large frying pan
  2. Saute onion for 15 minutes until soft
  3. Add bacon pieces to pan and sauté until cooked, about 10 minutes
  4. Add carrots and celery to pan and sauté in bacon fat for 10 minutes until soft
  5. Add ground beef to pan and sauté until brown, just a few minutes
  6. Season with salt, pepper and smoked paprika
  7. Add chicken broth and cook down broth until 60% evaporated
  8. Place cauliflower in food processor and puree with olive oil until smooth
  9. Pour ground beef mixture into a 9 x 13 inch baking dish
  10. Pour mashed cauliflower over beef mixture
  11. Bake at 350° for 30 minutes
  12. Serve

It was so good. I left out the celery because I don't really care for it, but I'm sure it will be amazing with as well!

Happy Eating,